What Truth Are You Avoiding?

Yesterday, I had the opportunity to have a lenghty conversation with someone who is neurodivergent.

They explained to me how it was difficult for them to keep a job due to the disconnect between how they thought people should behave socially, and how people actually behave socially.

“If we’re all in a room, and we all secretly know what the truth is, why do we lie or try to avoid it?”, she said.

“Well…I guess it’s because the truth is often uncomfortable and awkward, and nobody wants to make another person feel that way”, I responded.

“But why though?”, she said.

“Isn’t it so much better to say the truth than act like everything is okay, even if it is uncomfortable?”

It was a great observation.

I can understand not wanting to make people uncomfortable, but most humans really do try to avoid discomforting truths about their lives, and other people’s lives, as much as possible.

They’ll act fake in front of certain people to be more likeable/agreeable.

They will distract themselves from the tasks they know they should do that would lead to growth, and make excuses (which are really just lies.)

And some people go so far as to live a life and be a person so completely incongruent with what they actually want and who they actually are, just so they don’t have to feel uncomfortable in their truths.

The truth is hard to swallow.

Knowing when it’s actually okay to lie to others is really difficult—and the best answer might be never.

But when is it beneficial to lie to yourself?

What truth are you avoiding right now?

What kind of lies are you telling yourself to escape facing the reality of your current situation?

It’s easy to run away from what you know you need to deal with.

But the truth is that avoidance gives short term relief, and long term discomfort.

By putting off what you need to face about yourself, you are only piling up a future debt of discomfort and pain.

Let’s all stop lying to ourselves. It’s going to hurt like a bitch, but handling present day truths saves you from years of agony.

As a quote that I can’t find the author for says:

“The magic you’re looking for is in the work you’re avoiding.”

Time to stop talking about the work, and do it.

Finding The Truth

Facing the truth is massively important.

But figuring out the truth about who you are before you face it is it’s own task in and of itself.

I wanted to create a complete resource for you to learn every technique I’ve used to become the most mentally, physically and financially fulfilled I’ve ever been.

A resource that dives into the issue of knowing who you are, what truths you are avoiding, and how to accept and work through them.

And that is why I created my self mastery school.

The Ultimate Self Mastery School is a place for those who want to actualize their greatest potential, strengthen their self awareness, build better habits, and develop a fulfilling life.

The school features 14 videos with 15+ worksheets, a guided meditation, and an exclusive community where we all hold each other accountable and give further advice.

It’s a culmination of years of research on behavioral science, psychology, and of course, trial and error from my own life.

And it’s specifically designed for those who want to go deeper than superficial YouTube videos/articles, make close friends who uplift them, and gain a better understanding of themselves.

Being able to actually apply the advice you receive, and get consistent feedback from like-minded people are probably the two most important factors in seeing permanent change.

And I’m guessing you currently feel like you can’t talk to anyone in real life about your struggles with self-development, right?

That’s why our community meets in a group coaching call every other week to make sure we are all staying on the path towards self mastery.

It’s also been an incredible way for everyone to open up about things that they have been going through, have accountability surrounding the habits we are trying to build/remove, and get feedback and advice without judgement.

And because of that, the friendships in there feel genuine.

It’s easily the most fulfilling thing I’ve ever created.

Here's some recent wins from our community:

But if you’re not ready for a serious commitment yet, you can join my free self-improvement community by clicking here.

Watch the intro video on that page to see if the course is right for you.

Hope to see you in there.

Quote of The Week

Thanks for reading, everyone. Hope you enjoy your weekend.

-Cole