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So I am permanently out of the dating game thanks to my incredible fiancée. (Thank the lord for her.)

But the internet introduced me to a new option on the dating app Bumble—one I hadn’t seen before.

Apparently, when selecting what you're looking for, there's an option called "Intimacy without commitment."

This, I believe, perfectly encapsulates the core struggle of modern dating.

Commitment is terrifying. Letting someone fully into your life—allowing them to see every side of you—means exposing yourself to the very real possibility of getting hurt. In fact, it’s almost guaranteed.

By keeping relationships at a surface level, you might avoid the inevitable pain that comes with falling in love and being loved. But that’s just it—love cannot exist without vulnerability and truth.

As a result, we've built a society that craves deep connection yet discourages the very openness required to achieve it, trapping people in a cycle where the fear of being hurt only deepens their struggle to find real love.

Reaching a place where you can accept that pain as part of the process takes patience, time, and self-acceptance. Maybe you've been hurt so deeply that you feel like you'll never recover. I’ve been there. And for years, I avoided anything serious because of it.

In the short term, that distance might help you heal. But if you stay guarded forever, you'll never experience what makes a long-term relationship truly fulfilling—a partner who sees you fully, accepts you unconditionally, and helps bring out the best in you.

Finding that kind of love requires courage. The problem is, most young people seeking relationships today are operating from a place of fear—fear fueled largely by the negative relationship narratives constantly amplified on social media.

But exceptional people exist in masses. People who have done the work, who are unafraid to be honest, and who are ready for real commitment. No matter how much the modern world tries to convince you otherwise, they are out there.

To find them, you have to be willing to open up. To grieve. To risk pain and loss.

There is no path to discovering what you truly want in a partner that doesn’t involve these roadblocks.

Life has a pretty sick sense of humor. It loves to make you question your worth, self-sabotage, and suffer.

For years, I wanted to understand what my purpose on earth was. How could I accept my suffering, and let it guide me to self-actualization?

Well, it turns out success in all facets of life multiplies when you surround yourself with the right people. As soon as I began speaking with those who had already done the inner work I knew I needed to do, it became a hell of a lot easier.

I wanted to create a community where we could support each other in this journey—helping one another grow, staying accountable, and learning together along the way.

And that is why I created my Self Mastery School.

Self Mastery School is a place for those who want to actualize their greatest potential, strengthen their self awareness, and connect with like-minded, down-to-earth humans.

When you join the school, you’ll get access to:

• Full length courses/eBooks (including my Ultimate Self Mastery Course)

• Weekly coaching calls and lectures (related to self-awareness, making money online, social skills, fitness, etc.)

• An exclusive community of ambitious, open-minded people

It’s a place for those who feel like they can’t talk to anyone about self-improvement in real life, and are trying to find their tribe.

The friendships in there feel genuine.

And I have a feeling you’re going to find your tribe in there, too.

Here's some wins from our community:

Hope to see you in there.

Book Chronicles #5

As promised, I’m here to give you updates on my upcoming novel, Fractured Worlds. (That name is not official yet.)

Awesome developments this week. The main character finally had his first “reality-shifting” moment, which was completely uncontrollable. He will learn to control his powers as the story unfolds.

I also thought of a really compelling way to incorporate an antagonist into the story. Hopefully it will take readers by surprise until it’s explicitly revealed. Here’s a hint for when you start reading: it’s someone who wants to experiment on him.

Over 2000 words written in a couple days, and I’m going to try to write some more tonight.

See you next week.

Quote of The Week

Thanks for reading, everyone. Hope you enjoy your weekend.

-Cole