Your Biggest Opportunity For Growth Is This

If you’re looking for opportunities to grow, pay attention to when your ego feels threatened.

What does this mean? I’ll give you a few examples.

You’re scrolling and find an oddly specific insult in a piece of content that seems to be directed at you.

Your body starts activating it’s nervous system. You feel a rush of warmth fly to your head. You get tightness in your chest. Your immediate response is to defend yourself in the comments.

Why? Because that content hit a soft spot in you. Your ego, which has spent so much time trying to perfect your external appearance, consumed something which threatened the validity of it’s perfection.

In other words: The ego’s anger response might be an indication that you’re insecure about that specific part of yourself.

This is a great thing if you can make an active effort to calm yourself and ask, “why might this piece of content trigger me?”

That’s where the real growth is going to happen.

Another example is when you’re trying to change your identity. What your ego is attached to, is the “you” that is currrently unactualized. It likes the safety and certainty in knowing that it exists, because you keep repeating the same self-destructive patterns over and over.

So what happens when you decide to break this cycle? It does everything it can to make sure you stay who you always are. Because if you did manage to change, then that would threaten it’s existence.

This is why permanent change is so hard.

Some nuance with this: Sometimes, your ego getting threatened/triggered has nothing to do with you.

There’s some genuinely mean people that exist, and are trying to purposefully trigger you. Staying around them would only be exhausting, not productive.

Funnily enough, in those scenarios, your biggest opportunity for growth doesn’t lie in changing yourself, but distancing yourself and setting boundaries with the people who are negatively contributing to your life.

I’m not sure there’s anything harder than breaking out of that self-sabotaging cycle that your ego wants you to stay in.

Especially when you’re doing self-improvement alone, and you have no one to help support you.

One of my biggest goals after becoming the most physically, financially, and mentally fulfilled I’ve ever been, was to teach people how to reach their highest potential within a community.

Because this self-improvement journey can get really lonely.

And it still blows my mind how many people aren’t willing to talk about self-improvement in real life.

Imagine you were part of a community like that.

A community that held you accountable for getting better, and develop skills that completely changed the way you feel about yourself.

Kind of like a school, but for self-improvement.

I wanted to make this into a reality.

And that is why I created my Self Mastery School.

The Self Mastery School is a place for those who want to actualize their greatest potential, strengthen their self awareness, build better habits, and break the cycle of self-sabotage.

When you join the school, you’ll get access to:

• Full length courses/eBooks

• Weekly coaching calls and lectures (related to self-awareness, making money online, social skills, etc.)

• An exclusive community of ambitious, open-minded people

• In person meetups (coming soon)

The friendships in there feel genuine.

And I have a feeling you’re going to find your tribe in there, too.

Here's some wins from our community:

I’ll see you in there.

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Thanks for reading, everyone. Hope you enjoy your weekend.

-Cole